It is difficult to solve problems in the same environment (mindset) in which the problem was created. To change our stories we will need to shift our perspectives
Our limitations — are bound by the box (cage) we were either born into or adopted along the way. Thinking liminally allows you to not just think outside the box but re-define the boundaries of the box by getting curious about the threshold.
Like everybody else on this planet, I have a story and consciously choose to tell the story that sees me not only thrive in life but grow and contribute - noting it starts with acknowledgment.
This requires work and a level of resilience that not only sits in my DNA blueprint but sits in my ability to dust myself off when I fall (spoiler alert!) we all fall.
One vital step to creating the new story I wanted to tell was to acknowledge my pain points (trauma) for it is incredibly difficult to solve problems we won't even acknowledge.
When life appeared to be serving me lemons and I mean the sour tasting, awkward face inducing lemons, I had to get really curious about the 'why'. Why was this happening to me, I was clutching onto the victim story that would dis-empower me. It was only when I looked in the double sided mirror that reflected my role in society, did I then realise that I hold the combination to unlock whatever cage I or society thought I should be in.
A Curious Rebel was born......
It became frighteningly obvious that nobody was coming to save me and so I got to work on cleaning my trauma and do this daily to ensure I do not pass this on to my children or those I come across in life—it's not for the faint hearted but it's worth it.
In doing the work I have been able to create successful businesses in the U.K. and Australia - most importantly, I no longer chase happiness, it finds me when I am open to receive it.
I was blessed with a great job as an engineer and project manager yet I forever seemed to be chasing happiness. Having been homeless at 24, a single mother to two, I had well and truly earned my hard knock degree.
After relocating to Australia from the U.K, I realised I was on the same hamster wheel I ran away from, this wheel just had a lot more sunshine. Turns out I was running away from myself, and so the invitation came for me to run away again (oh I would have!) or get down to business and look into that double sided mirror.
Undertaking a PhD, creating documentaries, speaking to thousands of people a year and collaborating with kind and brilliant minds
I found out two decades into my engineering career that I am actually in the business of people and not much matters without them
Systems Engineer, Project Manager, Consultant, Gym Owner, Cafe owner (big mistake), Author, Documentary Producer, Curious Rebel
'Savage' they call me, mother to two gorgeous, reasonably adjusted kids as I definitely did not get the memo on parenting.....pls share when you find it!
Dad wanted me to be a lawyer but the curious rebel in me made me a 1st Class Mechanical Engineer instead (the best kind!)
1 of 7 children. Born in the United Kingdom, early childhood in Nigeria, back to Brixton, South London to earn my stripes ;)
To be compassionate is to express empathy and tolerance for anything different. To do this, we would need to clean our trauma.
To be our word, especially when no one is looking. Taking responsibility when we fail and taking action to put it right
Having the freedom to choose flexibly. Freedom to have structures without the disempowerment of shackles